I was spanked when i was just a little girl and i turned out to be a fine person, God fearing, respectful and a loving kind. This issue had started at my son's blog and until now it bothers me so much. Now that i am a mother, i am trying to be a best mother as i can like how my mother raised me. She is firm yet loving kind to us her children. She punish us every time we are not minding her and we are beyond the limit, she then explains us why we got spanked. And i love her even more now because i realized that she did all that for me to be one good person today. She taught me how respect others and to be an open minded to everyone.
I love to hear others's opinions but not to the point of hurting my feelings and sounding like i am a bad mother. Some people just jumps into conclusions right away without even knowing the person that they are being judged. If i don't know that certain person, i don't certainly judge, or even if i know the person so well i still have no right to judge because i myself is not perfect. If someone told me that she or he is a bad person then i wanna know her/his side as well. It is not because someone told me that he or she is a bad person i will believe to that person right away, i want to hear both sides for me to realize who is telling the truth. I make my own realization not depending on what someone else's said. I am being so real here because i got very upset with these very judgemental people that came across to my website and leaving not so pleasant words.
Like i said, i am doing what i think is best and effective for my son and i am doing it because there is a reason. I spank him, afterwards i explain to him why, then we will hug each other telling him that i don't want him to do such things that is not right. In that way, i see my son learning from his mistakes and seeing him not hating me because he knows that i did it to him because i don't want him to be put in the most worst situation like what happened to him almost 2 years ago that he burned his finger because he didn't listen and mind me. He was very fascinated with the glaring fire and thought it won't hurt him but it did and he screamed and cried so hard. As a mother, i felt bad. Also there is one time he went outside without me knowing it, he sneaked at the back door and too late that i found out he was on the loose.
I love my son so much and i know every mothers in the world feels the same way for their children. So please stop judging me for you don't know me personally at all. You don't even have no idea how my parents brought me up, so please do your motherhood your own way and i will do mine that i think is best for my child. This is indeed a very delicate issue to talk about, and i don't try to interfere every mother's opinion because that is their way and i got my own way as well. I just realized that it's the people by nature for being judgemental to someone, even though they finished a high degree course if that is what they are, then it will come out by nature. I am putting an end to this issue and i hope that these judgemental people will leave me alone. I don't judge you because i don't know who you are and what kind of upbringing you apply to your kids and like i said i respect every mothers so please do the same way to me.