Monday, August 24, 2009

It's Just Hard

I just had another surgery last Thursday. My gall bladder was taken out because it has stone in it and it is not functioning anymore. It wasn't as big as my C-section but it sure is hurting me. I had 4 spots in my tummy aside from my C-section for it is what the doctor called a SCOPE OPERATION. Everyday i am slowly recovering and hoping that i can get back to my daily routine so soon. I have to get better and gain my strength because i have to take care of my kids, especially the newborn one.

I must say that it is indeed hard to give birth and undergone operations without someone who can help. I am missing my mother i guess, i am feeling so depressed right now. I have to take care of my kids and to be fully recovered at the same time, it's just too hard to do it. It is still difficult for me to move around due to my incisions although it is getting better but still i have to be very careful not to move too much or i will feel the pain again. I wonder if i am feeling the post partum depression? I hope i will get over this very soon, i don't like it and it is bad for me to feel depressed i know but how can i get rid of this depression i am feeling right now? Wish my mother is beside me during this time that i need her the most....

18 comments:

Prisqua said...

All the best and keep smiling it is the best medicine
:)

""rare*jonRez"" said...

silingan unta ta darl aron maka-hop in ko sa inyo ug makatabang gamay. :) I just hope and pray you'll recover fast... God will be with you always!

Haze said...

You'll be alright Darls' Ingon ana gyud na ang feeling every after manganak. Samot sa imoha new operation. Get well soon!

poray said...

think positive mami...the wounds will heal ky ako gani CS mn pud sus sakit jud tawn the first few months nya wla p jud katabang bantay bata ug uban pa lihukon pro so far ok n mn kron although naay times na maka feel ko discomfort...

ayaw anang depressed2 mode ky maka wrinkles na hehehe..all the best for you and the little one

Lynne said...

Hang in there. You're going through a lot and it takes time to heal. (((hugs))) for you.

sewingmom

Nedekcir said...

I heard a few about having their gall bladder removed after having a baby. Mine was taken also when my oldest two years old. It took a while before they found out what was wrong with me. Mine was a really bad hurt burn and they put me on a diet, I lost a lot of weight but did not help one bit.

I hope you feel better soon. Going to the bathroom for number 2 is real challenge without the pills. Take it easy, because you have two little ones depending on you. I know what you mean about having family over for help. They treat us like queen when the help is needed.

Have a good day.

PinayWAHM said...

Hi Mommy Darlene....

It's good to see you back in the blogging world.

Get well soon. Ang hirap nga kasi 2 major surgeries in such a short span.

Hinay hinay lang...

Mommy J

D' Archer said...

Hope you get well soon..and healthy family

Dorothy L said...

I am sorry to hear about your surgery. It is hard for ones body to recover when it has been through a surgical trauma never mind having another so soon afterward.

Try and rest as much as you can....I know it is hard with a new baby...so when the baby sleeps so does mommy.
Let the house work wait until another day...it is not going to go anywhere...so worry not about that.

It is a tiring thing to recover and take care of a baby.

REST>>>REST>>>REST :)

Vicki said...

Oh Sweetie. Please please please talk to your dr. about how you are feeling. I had ppd, too, and it got so very bad. I went on meds and everything got so much better. Please rest and take care of yourself. Let yourself cry and miss your mom if you need to. And PLEASE talk to someone!
I'll be praying for you!

YT said...

taking vitamin C will speed up your recovery from both operations..

dddiva said...

*hugs* Sorry for all you are going through right now- please talk to your doctor about your depression- there is NO NEED to suffer.

Dorothy L said...

Dropping in to wish you a speedy recovery.
Leaving you with a smile :)

Juliet said...

before when i was having my twins nya c-section pud ko paminaw nako lisod kayo naa duha ka bata ug naa pay tahi nya naa pa gyud toddler pero nakaya ra gihapon. basta hinay hinay lang dili lang ma mug-at. hope you feel better soon.

regards :-)

One Creative Queen said...

First of all, big hugs are on they way to you!

Secondly, go to your OB/GYN and get on some antidepressants. After I had my third, I felt the same way - so my dr put me on zoloft. That was a HUGE help! There is nothing wrong with needing meds to help with the depression - especially with everything you have on your plate right now.

Third, I had my gall bladder out a couple of years ago, in emergency surgery. I'd been dealing with gall bladder attacks for years - but no ER doc ever figured that out. They tried to scope mine out - so I have the same little incisions. The problem was, the stone blocking my main gall bladder "tube" was so big, it had blocked the entire tube. The surgeon said it was the worst acutely and chronically diseased gall bladder he'd ever seen in 42 years of surgery. They ended up having to make about a 7" incision...besides the little scope holes. I can't imagine having that done after having a c-section. Ouch!!

Please talk to your OB/GYN - and keep blogging. I can imagine it's impossible to get out of the house right now...but when you feel a little better, make sure you go for walks, etc, with the baby so you get a little fresh air and sunshine. I know you don't feel like it - but it does help. I promise.

And don't be so hard on yourself. After having 3 kids and more surgeries than I can count, I truly believe it takes a full year to recover from childbirth OR surgery - and you've had a double whammy. Take it day by day and give yourself a break - you will recover and you WILL feel better. Time helps...and so do meds.

Hang in there. xx

Nisha said...

Oh, you have a cute little new born there and i understand how difficult it is for you right now but you take rest, and don't exert too much, even while you take care of your kids. Am sure you will recover soon.. :-)

Mommy Scart said...

mao diay ning hitabo-a. amping jud ka next time kay lisod na duha diay imo tahi. Unta ok ka na karon. TC :)ded

♥Call me Noreen said...

Sis, musta ka na? Musta na mga bata? Hindi ko man lang nakita new baby mo bago ako umalis hayyyy sayang talaga! Nade-depressed ka pa din ba? MInsan talaga ganyan especially when ur trying to take care of the kids by yourself lang.

Ingat ka lagi and hello sa kanila lahat dyan ha!